Every time you interact with someone, you have the choice to listen, acknowledge and then let the words go, or take them personally. Taking it personally means you see the persons words as some kind of slight and to do this, you have to hear their words in a negative light. Normally what others do and say doesn't have any bearing on you but is based on their own experiences, emotions and perceptions. Most times you will end up feeling hurt for no reason.
If this happens, put a little space between you and the speaker. Ask yourself if these words are reinforcing an insecurity within yourself or if you can really be sure that they intended to offend you. Also, put yourself in their shoes and remember that these are their opinions and are based on what's going on with them and may very well have nothing to do with you. You may just be an easy target for someone having a bad day.
When you realize that the words of others don't necessarily have anything to do with you, you will no longer feel it as an attack. While it's easy to take things personally and we're all guilty of doing it, you should never let anyone's perceptions affect how you see yourself. Your life is personal to you and it's up to you to influence your own sense of well being.
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