Most of us know people who can rightfully be called a "Know-it-All". This person seems to know everything about anything and tends to dominate the conversation. They don't like being questioned and NEVER admit when they are wrong.
Being around this type of person can be tiring because nothing is shared between the two of you. In conversation, you will become the audience so that they can be the center of attention. Respect and attention are two things this type of person wants desperately and this is the only way they know to get them. In their minds, if we stand back and allow them to monopolize the conversation, it's obviously because they know so much more than the rest of us. It couldn't possibly be because no one can get a word in edgewise!
If you look underneath their mask of confidence you may well see fear. They tend to be afraid of listening to another. They mistakenly believe that if they're not speaking, people will think they are not smart and as long as they are in control, you cannot ask questions they can't answer. Even though it is ridiculous to believe that any one person could know everything there is to know in the world, they truly feel they must know the most or they don't measure up.
Although most of us tend to try to avoid the "Know-it-All" recognizing their fear may compel you to compassion and friendship. Recognizing their need and offering your friendship could well open their heart and give you the chance to contribute. Over time, with much patience and work, your friendship can become a two way street.
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